Remember the times when you and your (ex) best friend(s) were together? And now, you have grown apart from each other?
It seemed just like yesterday when both of you were hanging out together having fun and sharing stories, yet today, you barely know what is going on in her life?
Does it scare you to lose your best friend? That girl who played with you, quarrelled with you, stood by you, encouraged you when you were down and went places with you? The friend whom you felt closer to that towards your siblings?
It’s scary, and it’s hurtful to think how you could grow apart from friends whom you value so much.
Friends Forever. That was the tagline we held in school.
For someone who used to spend all our time together, talking about everything under the sun, giggling away and sharing our woes and troubles, for someone whom I thought life would never be the same without her and it’s almost unimaginable that one day we might go separate ways.
But we eventually did.
It did hurt.
There were mixed feelings; confusion, frustrations, loss, loneliness, sadness, anger, and even hope.
But alas, times didn’t turn back nor did we stayed best of friends. We just moved on, eventually.
It was difficult at first but it became much more manageable with time.
Even till today, I still look back at the times we shared and enjoyed, the times we fought and didn’t talk, then we would smile at each other when we met and started talking again.
It is understandable. If you have a best friend, you will find that fear of losing your bestie and that unimaginable pain that you might go through even thinking about it. Of course, we all want our friendships and relationships to last forever.
Sometimes you just think back and end your thoughts with a sad sigh.
Perhaps it is this reason you have been so careful when making new friends today.
Perhaps this is why you worry about being left out again and so you don’t really try so hard anymore.
Growing apart from someone who used to be close to you is painful albeit a part of life.
People come and go in our lives, some are here to stay, others are here as a passing phase.
At certain points in your life, you will meet people who are on the same path as you, perhaps they are headed towards the same direction and so you clicked naturally; you could be experiencing similar situations at home, studies or relationship, or aiming for the same goals or career paths.
As time goes by, your pace of growth change.
You could be more driven and want to challenge yourself more or take on more responsibilities and hence, expand your comfort zone, while your friend could be comfortable with the pace she was in (or vice versa).
As you learn and expose yourself more, you might find that your vision and views of the future slighted away from your friend’s. Sooner or later, you might find that both of you are on different pages.
Or it could be changed in priorities, thoughts, behaviours or even social circles.